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How to Find Joy and Peace

Matthew 10:30-31 says, “And the very hairs on your head are all numbered. So don’t be afraid; you are more valuable to God than a whole flock of sparrows,” (NLT). The Lord doesn’t care so much about our accomplishments. He created each and every one of us to be unique and special. He values even our hair—whether it’s a lot or only a little! God loves me. God loves you. He loved you when you were only a child, with mud on your nose and peanut butter in your hair. He loved you when you succeeded and when you failed. His love is completely unconditional.

Take a moment to think about that truth. You don’t have to prove anything to God. He just loves you because you exist. God loved you before you were born. He loved you before you even knew Him. He loved you when you were lost in your sins and He came to take care of that! You don’t have to look a certain way or do a certain thing to earn His love. He loves you and He values you, more than you can ever fathom. Even when you mess up and fall flat on your face, He still loves you. Believe this truth. It will set you free.

Our world teaches that the only person you can really trust in is yourself. Unfortunately, that’s a lie. For one thing, the Bible teaches that you cannot trust yourself at all. Proverbs 14:12 says, “There is a way which seems right to a man and appears straight before him, but at the end of it is the way of death,” (AMP). We, left to our own devices, are headed for destruction, death, and hell. However, Proverbs 3:5-6 says, “Trust in the Lord with all your heart; do not depend on your own understanding. Seek his will in all you do, and he will show you which path to take,” (NLT).

Sometimes, it’s really hard to trust anyone else, especially if you’ve been hurt in the past. Trusting in God can seem extremely difficult because of the simple fact that you can’t see Him or touch Him. However, anyone and everyone can EXPERIENCE God anywhere, anytime.

The great thing about Jesus (God) is He never lies and He always keeps His promises. He is completely reliable and absolutely faithful. If He said it, that settles it! Every promise written in the Bible is for you and me. The Bible was written not just for a few people, but for the entire world. Jesus does not force Himself on people; He simply offers Himself and His Spirit. He wants to walk with you. He wants a relationship with you. Matthew 11: 28-30 says, “Are you tired? Worn out? Burned out on religion? Come to me. Get away with me and you’ll recover your life. I’ll show you how to take a real rest. Walk with me and work with me—watch how I do it. Learn the unforced rhythms of grace. I won’t lay anything heavy or ill-fitting on you. Keep company with me and you’ll learn to live freely and lightly,” (MSG).

I’ve heard it preached that the Lord wants to show you what a real Sabbath is. If you are living a life of perpetual fatigue, perhaps you are carrying around too many burdens. Jesus wants you to have a life that is light. He wants to show you a better, more joyful way to live. When we finally let go of our worries and believe the truth that God can handle our lives better than we can, suddenly we sleep better. We awake refreshed and energized. And joy quietly fills us. It’s there, exactly where it’s supposed to be, felt freely and fully.

Remember Psalm 37:4? It says, “Delight yourself also in the Lord, and He will give you the desires and secret petitions of your heart,” (AMP). This means that if you will walk with the Lord, He will make your dreams come true.

Excerpted from my book Allowing Joy Into Your Life coming soon.

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Posted by on July 20, 2012 in encouraging posts, Excerpts


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Attitude is Everything!

You’ve heard the saying, ‘If Momma ain’t happy, ain’t nobody happy.’ That’s true. My attitude is very contagious. If I want to pass on victory to my children, I have to demonstrate getting the victory now. If I want my husband to want to come home, I need to make my home a place that’s nice to come home to.

Recently, my husband and I were discussing how to help our children deal with their frustration. Growing up, I tended to be somewhat argumentative (My husband would say that’s putting it mildly!). One of my teachers in school thought I should become a lawyer. The problem is that tendency has become a habit with me. More unfortunately, it’s a habit I’m passing on to our children. During this morning’s discussion, I began to feel condemned. You see, my husband was saying that I was perpetuating the children’s behavior because I was tending to argue with them. Not only was I contributing, but I had modeled this for them. The problem was he was absolutely right and I hated to admit it!

Being the wonderful, perceptive man that he is, finally he asked me what was wrong. I told him I felt bad because of what he was saying. He asked me if I felt convicted or condemned. This question was crucial. I realized that I was feeling condemned. Well, God doesn’t ever condemn us. He convicts us so that we can change our ways and become better. If I’m feeling condemned, that can only be from one source—Satan. I have power over Satan. I can cast him out in Jesus’ name, which I promptly did. Wow! Instantly, I had the victory. My peace was back and all fear and other nasty feelings were gone. This enabled me to look at my husband’s words and realize that yes, he was right, but that I could change. I had the power to change.

Now, that doesn’t mean that our children’s behavior will change overnight. It’s going to take a few days. There are also my own bad habits to deal with as well. I need to recognize when I’m falling into my own bad habit of arguing and stop instantly, modeling good habits rather than bad ones. You see, I can’t just tell my children they are arguing or that they have a bad attitude. I need to model for them proper ways of discussing issues and maintaining a good attitude, but I can’t stop there. I also have to teach them how to do this for themselves.

Bottom line? In order to defeat fear forever, the first step is to fear the Lord and work to become like Him. Joy Haney in her book, At the Master’s Feet, says, “To fear the Lord is to respect His Word and to obey it. It is to walk softly before God with great reverence and awe at His glory and presence. It is to set Him up on the highest throne of your heart—to exalt Him and worship Him continually.” If I consistently do this, I will never fear.

“The Lord is my light and my salvation; whom shall I fear: the Lord is the strength of my life; of whom shall I be afraid? When the wicked, even mine enemies and my foes, came upon me to eat up my flesh, they stumbled and fell. Though an host should encamp against me, my heart shall not fear: though war should rise against me, in this will I be confident. One thing have I desired of the Lord, that will I seek after; that I may dwell in the house of the Lord all the days of my life, to behold the beauty of the Lord, and to enquire in his temple. For in the time of trouble he shall hide me in his pavilion: in the secret of his tabernacle shall he hide me; he shall set me up upon a rock. And now shall mine head be lifted up above mine enemies round about me: therefore will I offer in his tabernacle sacrifices of joy; I will sing, yea, I will sing praises unto the Lord,” Psalm 27:1-6 (KJV).

Excerpt from Defeat Fear Forever by: Christina Li, copyright 2010.

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Posted by on February 20, 2012 in Excerpts


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